We are creatures of duality. Our brains are split into two halves, one side well-adapted to optimizing the mundane, the other well-suited for adapting to anomalies. (This is not the same tired old and busted "left brain logic, right brain art" nonsense we were all fed in the 80's and 90's; this is all-new neuroscience … Continue reading The Letter or The Spirit of the Law?

Just reading the title of this post makes me wonder if I'm blogging about sexy learning D/s or dusty business management. Maybe both--sexy business D/s?. Heh. I just said "sexy business" out loud and it made me giggle. Maybe it's just me, but try it yourself: look down at your lap and say "now that … Continue reading Process Maturity

Today is Thanksgiving Day here in the US of A, and it's a bit of a tradition here to take a moment and give thanks for what we have. Relevant to this blog's content, I am quite grateful that I have a comfortable D/s dynamic with Beth. In the early days it was a struggle … Continue reading Finding Your Place

This is the fifth and final installment of the How To Tell A Good Sex Story series, which I started here. Okay, one last tip and then it's time to wrap up. This may sound counter-intuitive at first but in a moment it will make perfect sense: Never let the story end. Some of the … Continue reading How To Tell A Good Sex Story, Part 5: Don’t Stop

I couldn't find any backups to restore, so I guess Sunday and Monday's posts get to get rewritten. Who knows, maybe they'll be better the second time around. Tune in tomorrow for the closing installment of How To Tell A Good Sex Story. Fittingly enough for a final chapter, I'll be talking about how to … Continue reading I Forgot How To Computer

I just noticed that Sunday's post did not go up as planned, and neither it nor Monday's post are in my drafts or saved files. I'll try to recover them, and if I can't I'll rewrite them from memory as best I can. Stay tuned.

This is part four of an ongoing series about erotic storytelling. The first part can be found here. Yesterday we talked about being sensual and manipulating your listeners feelings by focusing the story on the feelings and sensations experienced by the protagonist. Today we take this a step further, and this one's a bit hard to … Continue reading How To Tell A Good Sexy Story, Part 4: Be Suggestive

This post is the third in an ongoing series of tips on erotic storytelling. The first post is here. Today’s topic is about being sensual in your depictions. There's an old fiction writing adage: "show, don't tell". You don't tell the reader that your hero is in a good mood, you show him giving a … Continue reading How To Tell A Good Sex Story, Part 3: Be Sensual

This post is the second in an ongoing series of tips on erotic storytelling. Today's topic is the element of fantasy in storytelling. This element has a light side and a dark side, and like most things in kink, to fully enjoy it you need to embrace both. In the light side, you can use … Continue reading How To Tell A Good Sex Story 2: Fantasy

I'm gonna start by saying this up front: I have some hangups about publishing erotica. Some big ones. They're mine to deal with but until and unless I do, you won't see any on here. That said, I love to use erotic stories to get Beth into a hot and steamy headspace during sex, and … Continue reading How To Tell A Good Sex Story I: Setting