Yesterday’s chat on The SafeworD/s Club was about toy play, what toys we liked and which we didn’t, and it was neat to see the vast assortment of implements people use for play.
What really struck me was the broad range of items on every axis. Doxy Wands and Hitachi Magic Wands obviously ticked the “expensive, but soooo worth it”. Nipple clamps were the winner in the $5 and under category. Then there was a play table build by HisLordship; he and I talked in private about plans for me to build me own, along with what what made it great and what things he would change if he were to do it again.
I found myself espousing contradicting attitudes at different times in the discussion, however, and I found this fascinating. You already know I love to hear myself talk, but what you might not know is that I am absolutely spellbound whenever I can listen to myself think. I love being able to tease apart subtle nuances to explain why I would take the opposite position to one I took just moments before, especially when I still stand by the original position. The position in question was whether to buy cheap or expensive toys.
For some toys, like nipple clamps, I’ll recommend to a newcomer to shop the bargain bins. Get a wide range of styles, find out what works well for you and what doesn’t, and expect a lot of them to break. Then, once you discovered your preferences, go ahead and spend a little more money for something with a little higher quality.
For other toys, however, cheaping out is just cheating yourself. Get the name-brand Hitachi wand (or the Doxy if you live in the UK). Big vibrators build up a lot of heat inside of them, and cutting corners on a more economical brand just means your fun vibrator is going to break down far too soon.
Similarly, when I make a paddle or a cuff, I will spend hours tooling the leather to a pleasing pattern, then buff and dye and polish and burnish until I get just the right finish. If I need a quick leather patch or pouch, however, I knock things together quite quickly. Both projects will have firm stitching and solid construction, but you can tell the quick projects quite easily because they’re rather homely. And both cases suit me fine.
Do you have toys in your box of wildly disparate natures? Why or why not? What about really expensive gear like electrosex equipment? That can run close to a thousand dollars for a high-end rig. Would you spend top dollar to guarantee safety and trouble-free operation? Or do you assume that something half or a third the price is probably good enough given the discount? What about simple toys like paddles or canes or clamps? Is there a quality range to even consider there, or do you just pay whatever Cane-iac is asking? (I’ve never considered buying a cane anywhere else, but that’s just me.)
How much of the cost versus quality tradeoff concerns you, and why? Do you think it’s the toys or the types of implements that drive you, or is it something about you personally that pushes you in one direction over the other?