Quality versus Expense

Yesterday’s chat on The SafeworD/s Club was about toy play, what toys we liked and which we didn’t, and it was neat to see the vast assortment of implements people use for play.

What really struck me was the broad range of items on every axis. Doxy Wands and Hitachi Magic Wands obviously ticked the “expensive, but soooo worth it”. Nipple clamps were the winner in the $5 and under category. Then there was a play table build by HisLordship; he and I talked in private about plans for me to build me own, along with what what made it great and what things he would change if he were to do it again.

I found myself espousing contradicting attitudes at different times in the discussion, however, and I found this fascinating. You already know I love to hear myself talk, but what you might not know is that I am absolutely spellbound whenever I can listen to myself think. I love being able to tease apart subtle nuances to explain why I would take the opposite position to one I took just moments before, especially when I still stand by the original position. The position in question was whether to buy cheap or expensive toys.

For some toys, like nipple clamps, I’ll recommend to a newcomer to shop the bargain bins. Get a wide range of styles, find out what works well for you and what doesn’t, and expect a lot of them to break. Then, once you discovered your preferences, go ahead and spend a little more money for something with a little higher quality.

For other toys, however, cheaping out is just cheating yourself. Get the name-brand Hitachi wand (or the Doxy if you live in the UK). Big vibrators build up a lot of heat inside of them, and cutting corners on a more economical brand just means your fun vibrator is going to break down far too soon.

Similarly, when I make a paddle or a cuff, I will spend hours tooling the leather to a pleasing pattern, then buff and dye and polish and burnish until I get just the right finish. If I need a quick leather patch or pouch, however, I knock things together quite quickly. Both projects will have firm stitching and solid construction, but you can tell the quick projects quite easily because they’re rather homely. And both cases suit me fine.

Do you have toys in your box of wildly disparate natures? Why or why not? What about really expensive gear like electrosex equipment? That can run close to a thousand dollars for a high-end rig. Would you spend top dollar to guarantee safety and trouble-free operation? Or do you assume that something half or a third the price is probably good enough given the discount? What about simple toys like paddles or canes or clamps? Is there a quality range to even consider there, or do you just pay whatever Cane-iac is asking? (I’ve never considered buying a cane anywhere else, but that’s just me.)

How much of the cost versus quality tradeoff concerns you, and why? Do you think it’s the toys or the types of implements that drive you, or is it something about you personally that pushes you in one direction over the other?

8 thoughts on “Quality versus Expense

  1. Not all toys have to be official toys either. Some of Mr. V’s favorite ones are his pervertables. Everyday things that have turned into his toys. Examples are chop sticks, paint stir sticks, kitchen towels, and clothes pins. He even repurposed a drum stick from one of our kid’s old toy sets. His newest is a set of BBQ meat claws. All these things were under $10 if not free. And trips to the Asian restaurants and looking for paint have never been the same. Lol!

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    • Yes yes yes VERY YES. Omg. I should probably do a whole (series?) post on pervertibles. We absolutely adore them. They’re usually less expensive than “real” sex toys, often higher quality (because they have to work in a “real” job somewhere), and best of all, you can flat deny that you use it for anything illicit! 😀

      The one gotcha is when you pervert at item in a way that just completely outside the physical expectations of its intended use. Wooden hairbrushes and cooking spoons can stand up to the the slow, steady strain of brushing and stirring all day long, but unless you bought them specifically designed for kink (which I think technically makes them camouflaged instead of pervertible) they’re just not designed to handle a spanking. We quit using spoons after I split the 3rd one, and we quit using hairbrushes after I split the… um… well, okay I busted _all_ of them and then bought two replacements and busted those too… look, the point is I am not always the quickest learner. 😀

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  2. It was a great chat and you made some interesting points. I think I am in agreement with you tray to spend as little as possible while trying them out is the best way but occasionally it is worth paying that bit extra. We have brilliant glass dildos which were very inexpensive but paid for the wand as we wanted something quiet which we could use more easily. This is a great post and I hope it gets people commenting 😊

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    • Thank you kindly! It really got me thinking about why I’m so contrary to my own self sometimes. Upon further reflection, I think two things push me towards the higher price range on a new purchase: fear of safety risk, and fear of losing a lot of money on a bad product. Violet wands can be had for around $180-230 on Amazon, but they also have one listed for $60. It very well could be perfectly safe and fun, but there’s just no way I’m going to be comfortable playing with something that cheap when the risk of electrocution is on the line. Similarly, Hitachi Magic Wands can be had for about $60 now, but countless off-brand equivalents exist at half the price. It’s just not worth it to me to give up the legendary quality reputation to save a few bucks.

      On the other end of the scale, I trust my ability to identify nipple clamps with dangerously sharp edges or other physical risks, so I don’t mind risking a few dollars on something I might have to return unused.

      Lastly, on the cheaper price range, if I flutter $5 on a product that does exactly what it says on the tin, but turns out to be no fun for our play style, then I’ve saved some cash not buying a toy we will never use again. But if I spend that $5 and we absolutely LOVE it, I have no problem turning around and spending $20 on a high-end, very nice quality version of the same implement. Sure, it basically cost me $25 to get that nice implement, but the $5 was to make sure the $20 item would make us happy.

      Thanks again!

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