I've been reading Beth bedtime stories. I have her strip naked and I put her in her night collar, then she climbs into bed and snuggles up to me and puts her head on my chest. I balance my iPad on my belly and read her a short children's book. I've been reading her stories … Continue reading Bad Daddy!
"Come here," I said after changing her collar this morning. She was still naked; this week it has pleased me to have her nude all night. I grabbed the silicone paddle we bought recently, and took her over my knee. "Why are we here?" I asked, per our ritual. "I forgot my medication," she replied. … Continue reading The Other Kind of Quickie
"Before I learned the art, a punch was just a punch, and a kick, just a kick. After I learned the art, a punch was no longer a punch, a kick, no longer a kick. Now that I understand the art, a punch is just a punch and a kick is just a kick." -- Bruce Lee … Continue reading Just Dominance
When did you know you were a Dominant or a submissive? And how did you come to realize it? I was raised on a toxic pablum of emasculation in the name of enlightenment and feminism. My parents brought me up in—and no doubt thought to save me from—a backwards culture where manliness and dominance directly … Continue reading When Did You Know?
Last Friday we had one of the most intense sessions we've ever experienced. New things were tried. Limits were tested and then cast aside as we plunged ahead into dark, uncharted waters. Five days later I'm still processing some of the stuff we got up to. The short version is we tried some humiliation and … Continue reading Bedtime Stories
There's a reason we do what we do, whoever we are, whatever it is. Sometimes conscious, sometimes not; sometimes logical, sometimes not. I started this blog for a conscious, calculating reason: I wanted to have ideas. You might be thinking "but wait, shouldn't you start a blog when you already have ideas? And if you're going to … Continue reading Blogging Schedule
It should come as no surprise that somebody who's into D/s might also be into working leather. What might surprise you is that, while I started the hobby after getting into D/s, I've never really gone out of my way to make bondage gear or implements. I've made a couple of paddles, but mostly I … Continue reading Leather Handcuff Bracelet
This is part 8 of a series that I'm worried might never end, so I'm going to try to bring it to a close today. You can read the first post here. There's an overarching theme to all of the posts in this series, and that is to create the safety you both need to move … Continue reading How To Train Your Dom 8: Create Safety
This is post 7 in a series. The first post is here. Yesterday we started to get answers from psychological science; today we're going to get a curious answer from bad science. I'm not kidding. Totally serious. In 1891 there was this amazingly smart horse named Hans that could answer any question put to him … Continue reading How To Train Your Dom 7: Clever Hans
Yesterday I stopped abruptly at the question "How can I be happier in my relationship?" Today I have an actual answer to offer you. (And no, it does not involve doing drugs.) This is part 6 of a series; the first post is here. TL;DR: Set a five minute timer. Ask yourself what is really … Continue reading How To Train Your Dom 6: Gratitude