There's an entire class of solutions and advice that I find perfectly hits the sweet spot between annoying and useless. I call these steaming turds of so-called wisdom, "time machine advice". Let's say I grab a piece of hot metal and burn my hand. You might tell me "you shouldn't have grabbed that piece of … Continue reading On Time Travel
The trickiest single moment in all of D/s, in my opinion, is the moment when a Dom has to inform their sub that expectations have not been met, and the sub must react and respond to that information. Yes, I'm still on about the stupid package. I'm not beating a dead horse here, though, I … Continue reading Follow-through Failure
As mentioned in yesterday's post, I wanted Beth to take care of a task, and it didn't get taken care of. Yesterday I talked about where I feel I went wrong in the delegation of the task; today I want to talk about why I'm obsessing about it so much. But first of course I'm … Continue reading Leadership Failure
Today I got after Beth for a mistake, and I think I did almost everything wrong. I may have done one or two things right but I'm not sure. I'd love to hear your thoughts and advice. What's a Dom with ADD to do?
Self-Care is serious business. Are you giving yourself yours?
I made this joke up all by myself! I didn't say it was a good joke...
I've been meaning to talk about D/s and mental health pretty much from my first post. I'm sure others have broached the topic, and probably better than I'll be able to. But I'm also sure there's plenty of fertile ground here to cover. Even if I can't say anything original on the topic, my own … Continue reading D/s and Mental Health
Hit a brick wall today emotionally. Came out of nowhere. (I guess that's a weird thing to say about walls? They are quite stealthy but it seems odd to ascribe to them any ambush skills that require, you know, mobility.) A huge part of me wants to wait this out before writing, but another part … Continue reading Head, Meet Wall
AlphaJT ran with a question I posted earlier, and his answer sparked an epiphany of my own. He was musing on when he knew he was Dominant and mentioned that as a youth he did some dumb relationship things that immature or wannabe Doms would do. This struck me as inspiring, and I realize this … Continue reading Immature Dom Epiphany
I went outside and watched the eclipse today and now writing this post is hard. Oh, not because I'm blind; I made a pinhole projector and except for a few furtive glances we mostly watched the eclipse happen upside-down and reversed on a screen. No, the reason the eclipse wiped me out is because it … Continue reading What’s In It For Me II